invisable friends....

[raisangrrl]

my son all of a sudden has an invisable friend, named invisable. has anyone ever have kids/ know kids who have had invisable friends? what kind of advice can you give me? i don't want him to not have an active imagination, i just want to see if anyone has any advice, for someone who has never dealt with invisable friends.

thank you!

*hugz*
raisangrrl

[Monika]

I had an invisible freind. but it's normal how old is your son??

[paulio]

My niece has an imaginary friend. My sister was worried at first, but we found that it didn't interfere with her making friends with other kids. It's just like her own special buddy! I think it's important to some kids to have something of their own that they don't really share with anyone else (like some adults do too!)

[raisangrrl]

he's 4, just turned in january.

he tends to be a very shy child (like me, i was a very shy child, and i'm a very shy adult now, unless i feel comfortable with you ). i'm not worried though, he doesn't start preschool til september, but i can tell you 'invisable' is driving me nuts, lol

thank you very much!

[mandy]

I don't think you should be worried. I had an imaginary/invisible friend when I was a little girl. I called her 'my chinese grandmother' and I talked about her all the time.

My husband also had an invisible friend...I really think it's completely normal. A way to deal with boredom, to keep oneself entertained, etc.

I found this, you might find it helpful to read: familyfun.go.com/raisingkids/child/dev/expert/dony77faimagfriend/

[Leonie]

i never had an invisable friend! but i believe it's very normal! a book i read on it says:
"children who have invisable friends tend to be more emotional and softer then other children, they create the perfect friend when they're feeling a little down and the friend will disappear when their 'feeling down' period is over, there is absolutely nothing to worry about! Every child sometimes has a period like this but every child handles it different"
it's a dutch book and i hope i have translated it right!

[raisangrrl]

Mandy said:

I don't think you should be worried. I had an imaginary/invisible friend when I was a little girl. I called her 'my chinese grandmother' and I talked about her all the time.

My husband also had an invisible friend...I really think it's completely normal. A way to deal with boredom, to keep oneself entertained, etc.

I found this, you might find it helpful to read: familyfun.go.com/raisingkids/child/dev/expert/dony77faimagfriend/

thank you very much! that was very helpful. i'm not so worried about the invisable friend, as i'm worried about how much trouble may he cause with his 'friend'. so far, invisable has been jumping on the chair, but my son firmly told him 'mommy says you can't do that' and that was the end of that *giggles* last night invisable joined us for dinner. very interesting dinner may i add. i was thinking i could use invisable as a helping aide with like vegetables for example (my son won't eat veggies, but maybe if he needed to show invisable how to eat them, maybe then he would).

he has a very active imagination (like my brother and i did when we were little). and sometimes we'll play 'caving' together, by going under tables and chairs, and stuff.

i don't think i ever had an imaginary friend, my brother and i are only one year apart, and we're very close (some people think we're twins). now i have to go ask my grandmother and my dad if i did, lol

again, thank you for that article, it was very enlightening on the subject of invisable friends!

[raisangrrl]

leonie,
my son is a very emotional little bundle of energy! he plays with dolls, and likes to pretend he's feeding them with his sister. i think they'll both make wonderful parents one day!

thank you very much!

[veela]

usually first born kids or kids that have many years between themselves and their older siblings have imaginary friends. it's very normal. i never had one but my older sister did and when my parents talked about it when we were little i decided just to make one up to be like her though i didn't believe "patty" was really there.

i don't think you need to worry about school because usually around other kids their age that they can play with, the imaginary friend takes a backseat.

[Angie812]

my brother had an imaginary friend named him....when he got in trouble..he would say, "him did it" cracked us all up

[raisangrrl]

my son is a first born, but my kids are only a year apart (almost 2). but i know that my son tends to get annoyed with his sister, so i'm sure he just needs someone else to play with, but he won't play with other kids, unless they come here.

[idreaminsilver]

I did when I was little
One of my favourite movies is also
Drop Dead Fred.... if you watch it
you might feel better about your
son's new friend

*charlene

[♣Miranda♣]

daturaangel812 said:

my brother had an imaginary friend named him....when he got in trouble..he would say, "him did it" cracked us all up

Him did it! That's too cute!

[raisangrrl]

idreaminsilver said:

I did when I was little
One of my favourite movies is also
Drop Dead Fred.... if you watch it
you might feel better about your
son's new friend

*charlene

i love that movie! i haven't seen it in ages though

[Natasha~]

i think it's good for the imagination!
xo

[MrLight]

I had an invisible friend as a kid. His name was Mimos, a Space Cowboy of the Cowboy Universe. My name was Dodge, and I was a Space Cowboy too.

[DaturaFae]

I had an imaginary friend named Lucy when I was in preschool/kindergarten. I also had a doll named Lucy (the "Peanuts" character), so my mom still isn't sure if I was referring to the doll or not.
I think that it's pretty normal, though, and I wouldn't worry about it.