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Post by elizabeth on Sept 8, 2008 11:20:00 GMT -5
My 18 year old niece is pregnant. And my nephew's 17 year old girlfriend is pregnant. At the same time. I feel really bad for my sister. She was a teen mom herself and faced so many difficulties. I'm really concerned. Having two little kids myself, I don't know how these girls are going to deal with the sacrifices you have to make. (I think my nephew, Elijah, won't find it so hard to sacrifice. He's a pretty gentle guy.) ARGH.
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Post by toomanyablefires on Sept 9, 2008 18:00:27 GMT -5
I think it's very sad, but unfortunately it's a pretty common reality. I don't remember the source, so take this stat with a grain of salt, but I read the other day that 1 in 3 girls will get pregnant before the age of 20. I think sex ed is sorely lacking in many schools. I remember having it, but they didn't really get too indepth. Ideally, of course, this is the parents responsibility, but many parents just don't feel comfortable talking about sex to their kids. There is so much misinformation out there, and it's a shame that so many young girls are getting pregnant before they are emotionally/financially ready to care for the child. Even if they choose to give the baby up for adoption or have an abortion, it's still an excruciating hard thing for a young person to deal with. If I had a daughter, I would try to be very open with her about sex/birth control/std's/common misconceptions, etc, and though I would urge her to wait as long as possible to become sexually active, I would definitely make sure she is armed with the correct info. As soon as she got her first period, I would take her to a gyno or family planning clinic, where, unless she was ill or requested my presence, everything would be confidential between her and the dr/clinician. If I had a son, I would again urge him to wait as long as he can, make sure he is well informed, and just hope he makes safe/ responsible/respectful decisians. Most importantly, I wouldn't want there EVER to be an element of shame attached to sex. I work with a few young girls at my housekeeping job, and I really try to instill in them that it's important to be responsible, but also, there is no reason to ever be ashamed of sex. It's amazing how many young people feel that. Anyway, good luck with your family, Elizabeth. I find that being a mentor to young people is extremely rewarding, as long as you keep a good balance and don't let the stress overlap into your own life. Take care.  |
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Post by elizabeth on Sept 13, 2008 18:25:19 GMT -5
thanks, sabrina  . you are a good friend. |
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Post by jam on Jun 9, 2009 9:27:36 GMT -5
no one should blame what happen to them.. just support them and still fill them with guidance and love so that they don't think bad to what had happen to them... just continue to love and guide them.. it will really help them..! besides every baby born is a gift from our beloved God..!  |
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. you are a good friend. 